From Self-Doubt to Confident Humility: Reframing Imposter Syndrome

I recently spoke at a Women’s Event where some of the most wonderful, talented, intelligent women all openly shared their experiences of imposter syndrome, burnout, and lack of boundaries.

It was inspiring to hear their stories and how each of them felt about the pressures, expectations, and fear of letting others down. These were impressive women—each with a unique professional journey but sharing the same doubts and insecurities.

You know that voice in your head—the one whispering, “Any minute now, they’re going to realise I have no idea what I’m doing”?

That voice? That’s imposter syndrome. And while it feels like an annoying party guest who just won’t leave, I’m here to tell you: it’s not your enemy. In fact, it might just be your competitive edge.

I’ve spent over 20 years in the legal and insurance world, and now I coach high performing professionals on thriving in high-stakes, fast-paced environments. But here’s the deal: the people I see questioning themselves the most? They’re usually the best ones in the room.

Seriously. Actual imposters don’t have imposter syndrome—they’re too busy updating their LinkedIn titles without a trace of irony.

Let’s take it back a step…

Where Did “Imposter Syndrome” Even Come From?

The term “imposter syndrome” was first coined in 1978 by psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in a study exploring high-achieving women who—despite their accomplishments—felt like frauds. These women believed they’d only succeeded because of luck or charm and lived in constant fear of being “found out.”

At the time, the phenomenon was named “imposter phenomenon,” highlighting the temporary and situational nature of the feeling. Over the years, it evolved into “imposter syndrome,” giving it a more clinical or pathological ring than originally intended.

Why might the name need an update?

“Imposter syndrome” implies a disorder or personal failing, but research has shown it’s often a natural, situational response to challenging or new circumstances—like landing a big promotion, working in male-dominated fields, or navigating cultures that undervalue diverse perspectives. Sound familiar?

Instead of seeing it as a flaw to be fixed, many experts now view it as a sign of growth—a clue you’re stretching your capabilities and stepping out of your comfort zone.

When You Level Up, You Start Over

Here’s the uncomfortable truth: every time you get promoted, switch teams, or land that massive new case, you’re starting again. Sure, you’ve got the skills that got you there—but now you’re in new territory. The rules have shifted, and surprise! You don’t magically download a new skill set just because your business card looks fancier.

You feel like a fraud not because you’re failing—but because you’re growing. And that, my friend, is a good problem to have.

You’re Not a Fake—You’re a Beginner (Again)

Let’s reframe this. You’re not an imposter. You’re someone with enough self-awareness to know there’s a gap between what you know and what you need to know. That’s not fraudulence. Let’s call that confident humility. It’s what separates the great from the merely loud.

You’re asking the right questions, checking your blind spots, and bringing your A-game because you care. CONTINUE TO CARE!

Self-Doubt = Growth Mode Activated

Here’s the magic that everyone should talk about - imposter syndrome is a growth indicator. That uncomfortable flutter in your gut? That’s your brain preparing for the next challenge. You’re on the edge of your comfort zone, which—annoyingly—is the only place where real development happens.

It’s like going to the gym. If you don’t feel a bit awkward and shaky with a new routine, you’re probably just lifting your water bottle and calling it ‘strength training’.

Use that discomfort. Let it make you more curious, more prepared, more open. Lean into it. Because hiding from it? That’s how we stagnate.

What To Do When You’re Mid-Flail

If you’re currently knee-deep in the “what if I’m a total fraud?” spiral, try this:

- Phone a friend. Preferably one who’s also ridiculously competent and also questioning their life choices. Misery loves company—and so does growth.

- Label the gap. Say it out loud: “I don’t know this yet.” That one word—yet—flips the whole narrative.

- Own your wins. You didn’t bluff your way here. Your skills, grit, and experience got you to this point. You’re allowed to feel both proud and petrified.

Imposter Syndrome Isn’t a Bug. It’s a Feature.

The goal isn’t to never feel like an imposter. The goal is to realise it’s just part of the ride—like seatbelt chafing on the rollercoaster of career development. What a lovely image I just provided!

So next time that voice pipes up and tells you you’re faking it, respond with a smirk and say, “Yeah, well, I’m faking it like a boss.” If you weren’t growing, you wouldn’t feel the fear. And if you weren’t ready, you wouldn’t have been given the chance.

Spoiler alert - you probably weren’t the only person that got you to where you are - is everyone wrong?!

You’re not a fraud. You’re a force in transition.

Now go make some (very competent) waves.